Uncovering and Confronting False Beliefs: Overcoming the Harmful Forces of Pain

Today's message holds equal significance for both men and women, though I can imagine some men rolling their eyes in disbelief as they read it. Initially, most men might struggle to connect with today's topic. 

I've seen firsthand (or heard from someone I know about their wife or sibling) how individuals struggle to find their identity after losing a significant role they've identified with for most of their lives. For instance, I know mothers who, after their children have grown up and left the "nest," fall into depression or severe burnout. Similarly, I've observed people facing different types of losses experiencing the same issue.

Many individuals, as they navigate the ongoing process of coping with profound loss, often engage in helping others in extreme need. However, they may not realize that their actions stem not from a place of wholeness and blessing, but rather from their own pain and a personal desire to feel "needed" or "wanted".

It's not that there's anything inherently wrong with serving others for any reason; I'm simply addressing the "unfulfilled void" in people's hearts. Some fill this void with unhealthy habits (like drugs, drinking, etc.), while others seek more healthy and beneficial ways (such as community service) to fill their hearts. However, both approaches, when used to cope with pain, are not truly beneficial for someone dealing with loss.

So, what is the solution? The solution lies in addressing the underlying false beliefs. Many individuals are unaware of their harmful false beliefs and how to embrace the truth. According to the Word of God, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” - John 8:31-32

The key lies in recognizing false beliefs such as "I am not needed," "I’m not wanted," "I’m not enough," etc., and tracing them back to the events where they began. Confronting a loss that perpetuated a lie can help deal with the pain. Rejecting the false belief and accepting the truth, as revealed by the Holy Spirit through the Word of God, brings freedom from pain. 

You can ask the Holy Spirit to uncover any hidden lies you believe that continue to cause you pain. You can invite Jesus to bring healing and allow the ministry of the Holy Spirit to reveal the truth about the loss you experienced. You have the option to reject a lie and accept the truth. 

Let me pray for you:

Father, I pray that each person reading this blog post receives the grace to identify the lies they believe. I ask for the grace to understand the truth from God's word and to accept it, so they may experience inner healing. In Jesus' name, I pray. 

The second most important commandment is like this one. And it is, “Love others as much as you love yourself.” Matthew 22:39 CEV