Can Love Still Bloom After Deep Disappointment?

Throughout our lives, we continue learning many things—including how to love well when we have been disappointed by a spouse, family member, or friend. If someone has recently hurt or disappointed you and your heart needs healing, today’s reflection is for you.

"Love is Willing" 2026. Mixed media on canvas, 30cm x 30cm

“Love makes you willing to forgive many sins.” (1 Peter 4:8 ERV)

I created Love Is Willing during a season when I faced the difficult decision of whether to reach out to someone whose behavior had been cunning and hurtful.

For several days, I prayed for this person, processed my pain, and made the choice to forgive. Because I did not feel love toward them, I asked the Holy Spirit to help me see them through the Father’s eyes.

As I allowed myself to be immersed in the Father’s love, I found the grace to forgive and reach out—while still maintaining appropriate boundaries. Forgiveness did not require me to ignore what had happened or make myself vulnerable to further harm. Instead, it opened my heart to explore how Christ can love people through us, even in deeply challenging relationships.

This was one of the most difficult paintings I had created in a long time.

Tulips often symbolize deep love, renewal, and mercy. Because they bloom in early spring, they also represent fresh beginnings. The pink tulips in this painting communicate grace, tenderness, and friendship.

When viewed closely, the finished work reveals traces of its rough underpainting. These visible layers remind us that relationships are rarely simple. They are formed from experiences, expectations, wounds, misunderstandings, and moments of grace.

Sometimes, we must gently examine these layers to discover the deeper issue that needs healing.

Love Is Willing reminds us that Christ’s love can produce something beautiful and delicate even within a difficult environment. However, this transformation requires a willingness to look beneath the surface of painful interactions and view them through the lens of His love.

Loving well does not mean excusing harmful behavior, denying our pain, or abandoning healthy boundaries. It means allowing the Father’s love to heal our hearts so that bitterness does not determine our response.

Forgiveness is not always a feeling. Sometimes, it begins with a willing heart.

If you have a moment, spend a few minutes quietly observing the painting. Notice the layers, textures, and delicate tulips. Pay attention to the feelings that arise as you look at Love Is Willing.

Is there someone you need to forgive?